Ever get a case of bedroom déjà vu? Once you discover a few no-fail tricks for touching her vagina and bringing her to orgasm, it’s hard not to fall into a sexual routine.
“If something works, you want to keep doing it, “But at the same time, even the best moves can get old and worn out.”
And although women often worry about taking too long to climax, they also don’t want to hit their peak in 60 seconds flat—which is what can happen if you go straight to your failsafe move every time.
By contrast, if you switch things up, you may find that her experience is more satisfying, since delaying her orgasm can make it stronger
So save your signature skills for the grand finale and experiment with these 10 ways to touch her vagina.
1. OPEN HER HOOD.
There’s a little flap of skin that covers her clitoris when she’s not fully aroused—and it’s begging to be played with.
“The clitoral hood is actually an extension of the inner lips,” says Fulbright. “It can be its own feel-good spot.”
Early on in your encounter—before she’s gotten so turned on that her hood retracts—give the hot spot aon her vagina a little love: Trace her inner labia upwards until you find the fold just above her clitoris, and stroke it with your fingertips, making sure your digits are sufficiently slick with lube.
When she’s ready for direct clitoral contact, “you can use your thumb to push that skin up a little bit toward her belly button,”
2. FIND HER G-SPOT.
When it comes to G-spot stimulation, most guys know one classic technique: Insert a finger inside her vagina, palm up, and use a come-hither movement to stimulate her. But what if that doesn’t work?
Don’t give up your search for her hidden pleasure zone just yet.
“The G-spot is not necessarily right in the middle of that front wall [of the vagina],” Fulbright says. “It might be a little more to one side or a little lower.”
Her advice: Using at least two fingers, massage as much of the region as you can comfortably reach—and make sure she’s already wet before you work your way in.
“If she’s excited, the area is a little raised and rough,” says Fulbright. “If she’s not aroused enough, it’s going to be almost impossible to find.”
3. GIVE HER A MASSAGE.
Before you part the outer lips of her vagina, give them a little attention.
“Touching the outer labia isn’t going to stimulate the clitoris in the same way the inner lips do, because they’re not connected,” says Fulbright.
If she doesn’t shave, you can even lightly pull at her pubic hair
4. CARESS HER CERVIX.
If your girlfriend prefers deep penetration, she probably enjoys the sensation of cervical contact—and your penis isn’t the only part of your body that can reach it.
“When she’s excited, the cervix does pull back some,”
“But the typical vagina is not that long.” So insert your finger until you can’t go any further, and gently massage her cervix, applying more pressure only if she responds with pleasure.
“It can be really, really sensitive, so try it gently,”
5. RE-ANGLE HER BODY.
Stick with your standard way of stimulating her—the one that really gets her going—but switch up the position.
“It will feel different because a woman’s body is so supremely sensitive that these little shifts can be pretty dramatic to her,” says Brandon. “She’s also going to have a different emotional reaction to what you’re doing.”
In other words, if she’s normally lying on her back when you get her off with an orgasm, trying the same technique on all fours can feel more animalistic.
So get creative: Have her lean against a wall, bend over the kitchen counter, or stand up straight—then execute the move she loves best.
6. PLAY THE PIANO.
Place your index finger on one side of her clitoris, your middle finger on the other side, and pretend you’re playing the piano, going back and forth, from side to side, suggests Fulbright.
Rhythmic motions are typically the most pleasurable ones for women—and stimulating the sensitive skin next to her clitoris is an easy way to build arousal and anticipation for an orgasm, she says.
Eventually, you can move one finger so it’s on top of her clitoris itself for a more intense version of this move.
7. BE THE HORSE TO HER COWGIRL.
This trick gives whole new meaning to the cowgirl position: Have your partner sit on top of your inner arm, so her vulva is resting on your wrist and lower forearm.
“Place your hand between her legs and cup her butt,” says Fulbright. Then have her grind against your arm, and once she’s established a rhythm, move your arm to match the pace and intensity she prefers.
“You’re able to touch a lot more surface area—it allows the whole area to come alive, instead of just one particular spot,” she says.
Plus, the vaginal stimulation tends to be less direct—and therefore more tolerable for super-sensitive gals.
8. GET BOTH HANDS IN ON THE ACTION.
Use the thumb and index finger of one hand to spread her labia, and use your other hand to stimulate her clitoris, suggests Fulbright.
Not only will opening her up give you better access to the pleasure zones of her vagina, it will make her feel a little vulnerable—which can be highly arousing.
9. LET HER LEAD THE WAY.
Watching her masturbate is the ultimate way to learn what she likes—but that level of vulnerability can be pretty intimidating for some women.
So put her hand on top of yours, and try this line: “Show me what you like, baby.” “Do this in a sexy way—not an ‘I’m confused, help me out,’ kind of way,”
10. HIT HER CLITORIS FROM ALL SIDES.
The classic side-to-side, up-and-down stimulation is undeniably awesome—and an almost surefire way to make her climax with an orgasm.
But that’s really only hitting a portion of her clitoris.